What Makes a Master/slave Situation Work

I’m back in sexy Maspalomas in Gran Canaria. It’s a great place for a digital nomad because it’s cheap, laid back and usually with amazing weather throughout the year, except for a few days when it can get extremely hot because of hot air coming from the Sahara desert. Of course, I especially like this small town on the island because it’s has fun cruising bars and clothing optional resorts and it attracts a lot of gays from all over Europe. But I’ll have more to tell you about my shenanigans there in the coming weeks, as I’ll be staying there for more than a month.

Today, after concluding a short visit at my Master’s, I thought I’d share my thoughts about what makes my relationship with my Master work. The answer is my Master, of course! Because my Master is great and Sir always knows what’s best! But I’ll dig in a little deeper for your benefit.

I’ve been with my Master for over four years. It’s only gotten better with time, because we’ve both learned to understand each other and know what works and what doesn’t. Here and there some friction may be inevitable, but those occasions are also an opportunity to learn and grow better together. And they have become more rare over time.

The most important thing is matching expectations. That’s true for short-term engagements too. I’ve done those on several occasions. That is, traveling to a Master that is willing to host me for at least a couple of nights in order to serve him however he likes, within my limits. Most of my experiences have been good and a few of them have been repeated. I made a point of connecting with each Master on camera to talk before traveling to him—at least for a few minutes—to get if we seemed to connect, discuss limits and be clear about what that Master expected from my visit.