An Intimate Interview (Part 2): Role-Play

I asked you about how the dom/sub relationship is "role playing," which you denied. That may be as much semantics as anything. Arguably, in any relationship, there's "role playing" going on, it seems to me. Married couples need to negotiate boundaries, discuss how they expect to be treated, etc. And based on largely reading between the lines of your stories, some of the same kinds of negotiations seem to take place. Does that resonate with you? I know you have to give your master(s) lots of latitude to rule over you, but you still have agreed-upon limits, taboos, etc., and the commitment to talk about everything as your relationship progresses.

Ooh, I'm all about semantics and definitions, especially when it comes to my role and the various responsibilities I assume as a sub. But certainly, I can agree that it can be considered by some as role-play. I'm focusing a bit on the "play" which doesn't feel right for me, because I associate that with acting, with doing something that isn't real and doesn't feel natural.

Sure, I'm assuming a role as a sub, a slave, a fag or whatever. I'm also assuming a role by being a man, being masculine and, funny enough, being described as straight-acting, though I don't feel like I'm trying to act or play the role of a straight man. I am out about being gay. On the other hand, when my Master has me drive him and his friends, and they are supposed to believe that I'm an Uber driver, that drives me crazy. I feel like that's role-play. It seems dishonest and I'm afraid to be caught in a lie. I much prefer that his friends know that I'm his slave. I don't want to act like I'm an Uber driver or a personal assistant or anything that I am not. Although sometimes Masters may insist, because that's exactly what they want - that I serve as an Uber driver, special assistant, or even a caterer at a dinner party. The next Master I'm going to tell you about made me cater to a dinner party, although I thought it was hot because everyone at the party knew I was a fag serving a role.

Back to the roles that we assume in any relationship, indeed with agreed upon limits. Gender roles, imposed by society, are a big part of that. In our relationships and interactions - men having sex with men, we can have it completely equal or we can make a conscious choice to assume specific roles. I can be a slave to my Owner, or his boy or his sub, however he would prefer. And I can be any range of roles in my interactions with other guys - from slave to a plain vanilla bottom. I could serve just as a urinal and nothing more, or I could be what I see as a faggot, willing to serve a Master even without having sex with him. @LondonDom4 (on Twitter) first exposed me to the possibility of serving in that role, and I'm grateful for it.